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Ayu's avatar

Really resonated with so much of this 😭

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Reka O.'s avatar

I'm so glad to hear that, thank you for reading 😊💜 And for the follow!!

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mooni's avatar

This was beautifully written, Reka :)

I know the feeling of seeing the group together again after a long wait, can still remember how I counted down the last 100 days for ONF, and what joy it was to see them on screen again in their first post-military live.

The wait itself was both painful and full of hopeful anticipation. We had one member hold the fort and grow with us, I did some of the coolest pieces of fanart then.

Can say from experience that the company will likely mess up, time to time again, but it won't probably deter you from loving the guys. You also might find that they've grown into a bit different people than they used to be, since they were growing separately. If so, don't worry, you'll get to know them again :)

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Reka O.'s avatar

Thanks for reading Mooni 💜

I knew that if someone would get what this feels like, it would be you! I kept hearing about how traumatic it is to experience the enlistment but I was in total denial. Now I wonder if I could have spent these years better, but I guess there's no point in blaming myself retrospectively. I'm glad that for you, some good things also came out of that period, like creating fanart 😊

And your last paragraph was very helpful to me, I like receiving advice like this from a fellow seasoned fan hehe. I do try to keep in mind that the company isn't the same as them, and that the BTS members might become changed people after a prominent experience like the military. But so far, the ones I've seen seemed exactly the same 😌 They might just change in little things, but that will be exciting to discover!

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Ana's avatar
Jun 13Edited

Loved it !

I discovered BTS in march 2021, I was totally burned out at that time. And I deeply know thar I would never had mentally survived the year without them. They were my daily dopamine dose that kept me standing and function.

Knowing them has been a life changing. It took me 3 more years to heal, grow and taking the right decision for me. But they have been the click that made me realise what I needed to be happy and finally love myself.

I also think I have been in some of denial while they enlisted. I think it was a way of protecting myself from their absence ? Like I didn't needed their presence anymore ? Also, I didn't quite connected with J-hope or Jin's solo activities.

But a few days befor RM's, V's, Jimin's and Jung-Kook's discharge, I felt something coming back alive in my heart. The urge to finally be reunited with them. I was waking up.

I didn't watch their lives or discharge videos (juste catched some glimps on instagram). I feel that I don't need to spend as much time watching videos of them, catch everything as I'm fully fulfilled in my life know (don't need that daily dopamine dose they where giving me because I get it elswhere). But I still deeply feel my connection to them and I can't wait to continue my fan - idol relationship with them 💜.

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Reka O.'s avatar

Thank you for reading! 💜

I love hearing stories of how other people discovered BTS and what things they helped survive. Their power to heal is one of the most magical things about idols and outsiders will never understand this.

It's also a bit reassuring that I'm not alone in that I spent these past two years in denial. What you described is so similar to what I went through, it's so strange but beautiful that we ARMYs even have a collective mind, so to speak 😄

I am going back to stanning them full-time and watching every single thing they put out, but I love that you have a different journey and you're going to keep loving them in a different way. It's all valid 💜

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Hanna reading the world's avatar

This made me tear up a bit 💜 you've worded this beautifully!

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Reka O.'s avatar

Thank you for reading 💜 It was supposed to be a bit of a tearjerker haha 🤭

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